Our celebrities like to confess their undying love for one another on social media. And this makes us believe that true love exists!
Unfortunately, the honest truth is that true love doesn’t exist. Don’t be deceived by the flirty nature that some of our celebrity couples have such as Rnaze and Natalie Tewa.
Here are some of the reasons why love does not exist:
Because It Would Be The Meanest Thing In The World
There are over 7 billion people in the world. The idea that there is one person out there who is perfect for you and you just have to somehow find them is like asking you to find a needle in a haystack except the hay is sadness. It just doesn’t make sense to me.
Because People Change
People change a lot over the years. In fact, you’ll be surprised that some of the people you knew a few years ago are not the same they are today.
People’s wants, opinions, needs, even personalities— everything shifts as time goes on.
The idea of soulmates encourages you to stay with someone who may have been perfect for you at some point, but isn’t necessarily for you now.
If you change in the same ways, great, but the chances of that are slim.
Because You Can Have More Than One
The feeling of love isn’t unique. But the idea of a soulmate makes it sound like you’re only have that one person to be with forever.
Maybe you have one perfect person for one time of your life and another perfect person for another.
If you’re not obsessed with the idea of “soulmate” you’ll see that isn’t any less special.
Because Not Everyone Is Looking For Love
Not everyone wants to be paired up for eternity. There are people who are aromatic, who don’t experience romantic attraction.
And, there are plenty of people who don’t want to be with one person for the rest of their lives.
The idea of soulmates and pairing off doesn’t just not include these people, it makes their choices seem somehow less-than. I’m not on board with that.
Because It Puts Way Too Much Pressure On One Person
The idea of soulmates suggests that you get everything you need from one person, it’s the “The One” mentality.
But this is a relatively new phenomenon— the idea that your romantic partner is your everything partner didn’t always exist, and it doesn’t seem very fair to me.
In fact, it seems unrealistic and like you’re setting yourself up for a let down.
Because We Should Be Oue Own “Soulmate”
The idea of finding completion, our other halves— all of that somehow makes us seem like we’re incomplete.
And if you’re waiting for someone to come around and be your other half, you abscond responsibility, and give yourself permission not to grow as a person.
But if you insist on completing yourself, being everything you need, then you’ll be a lot happier, and you’ll be in a better position for love when it does come along.