We all know the stereotype that all men want is sex … but that’s not true. Yes, they want sex – but who doesn’t? They want MORE than just sex.
But while some characterize women as complex to decode, at the end of a week in which Valentine’s Day was marked, we ask: what do men look for in a woman?
There are those who say they are consistent about certain physical features while others swear by a woman’s character. If a man has dated more than one woman, you can easily find a similar pattern — from their size, height all the way to complexion. So what exactly do men want in their women?
Intelligence is sexy, and men are captivated by smart women. You don’t need an MBA (if you do have one, kudos to you). Instead, you should be curious about and aware of what’s going on in the world – read the news, watch CNN, and be in the know.
Men are intrigued by women who challenge them and bring something to the table.
Men like women who are fit and in good shape. They aren’t attracted to someone who’s rail thin. Curves are sexy. Bear in mind that men like toned women, so you should make sure you look good in AND out of clothes.
Leading a balanced lifestyle is important. Men enjoy dating someone who can balance their job, their family, their friends and a relationship. They’re drawn to women who are independent. They like women who are down-to-earth and not a drama queen.
Men want women who are beautiful. Don’t worry, you don’t have to look like a model to be beautiful. You should be the best version of you and focus on your positive attributes.
If you have beautiful eyes, accentuate them. If you have great legs, show them off. If you have amazing hair, make sure you wear it down. Hopefully you see where I’m going here. Work with what you have!
Dr Geoffrey Wango, a senior lecturer of Counselling Psychology at the University of Nairobi and a counselling psychologist who is also an organisational behaviour coach, says that men look for several things in a woman.
“One of them is physical beauty. The ordinary man is attracted to a woman simply because of her looks. Males tend to lean on the physical, unlike females who seek meaningful relationships,” says Dr Wango.
However, he says, “the more reasonable male” will be inclined to seek additional details and seek out on personality and character.