All relationships have bumps in the road, but when your relationship becomes more bump than road, it may be time to reevaluate. It’s tempting to only recognize toxic dynamics when they’re caused by someone else. But what if the toxic one in your relationship is you?
In a toxic relationship, both people develop unhealthy behaviors and treat each other disrespectfully. While one person in the relationship may engage in more toxic behaviors than the other.
This was the case for Kenya’s celebrities, In 2016, Gospel artiste Hey-Z told the world that he had broken up with fiancée Mercy Njoki after she cheated on him with her boss Bobb Muriithi.
A year later Mercy officially became Mrs Muriithi and months later the couple welcomed their firstborn Hotani.
About 3 years after she broke up with Hey-Z, Mercy disclosed that her relationship with the singer was so toxic that she almost took her life.
“I came from a very toxic relationship and it lasted for almost 7 years and I kept thinking that things will change. That it will get better. We have a child. Where am I going? Watu watasema aje? Oh my God kukuwa judged. So I kept going back and it just got worse and when I say worse I mean it was really really bad to a point that I got suicidal,” Mercy said on Ebru TV.
“If you are in a bad relationship there is a good guy out there. I am very happy na sidanganyi. I found a good guy and he is really cool. He is very patient with the kids hata kuniliko and I am the mum. If you are in a toxic relationship ati unakaa hapo juu ya watu, hee! Just live your life, chomoka find good friends because my friends really helped me and were really happy that I got out of that situation. Don’t carry your bad vibes from huko into a new relationship,” Mercy advised.
Mercy’s new statement about Bob echoes her earlier sentiments that he made her believe in love once again.
“When I met Bob I was not looking for love, I had lost faith in this thing called “Love”. That word became Greek to me! I went through so much bullsh*t that made me numb. I just gave up hope. But he held my hand and walked with me…And am grateful to have made the best decision in life. This is where I want to be for the rest of my life… Happiness is not expensive! You just have to associate yourself with the right energy… I am the happiest and the most relaxed person right now. This is a brand new Njoki… Love is a beautiful thing after all. #njokitoday #brandnewnjoki #toGoodVibes ,” she confessed.